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But she's a psychologist with an intimate knowledge of alcoholism.
It's going to be really hard for you to influence her.
My sister was devastated and decided that she had to leave.
She moved out and found her own apartment, but she cried for the next 2 weeks because she had been CONVINCED that she would marry him.
I knew it was wrong, but was in such a hurting place, I couldn't get out of it. You need to protect yourself emotionally in this situation. OP, I don't think you can do anything to help your sister-- she has to come to it on her own. She was never able to have any control over her father and her home life growing up and now this guy is her chance to fix the damage she couldn't fix from her childhood. There is another theory, that psychologists go into the field to figure themselves out. Saving can be more subtle than what OP's sister's history suggests.
I really don't think there is anything you can to do help her through this. But you can remain a safe place for her to fall when she inevitably does. Savers will date the new fellow in town, the fellow coming off a bad relationship or a layoff.
My sister, who is really the whole package (beautiful, thin, brilliant, hilarious, fun, sweet), has unfortunately dated the biggest losers ever. About 6 months ago she met a bartender and totally fell for him; they moved in together a few months later. They made plans to go to Paris for Christmas and bought tickets and everything.
My husband and daughter and I were going to go visit them in Indiana for Thanksgiving -- she was absolutely sure he was "the one" and wanted us to meet him. He started coming home drunk in the middle of the night after work -- not just mildly drunk, but falling-down, passing-out drunk.
I am honestly sick of dealing with the drama and doling out advice that she doesn't listen to. I talked her through all of those bad relationships and it just pains me to see her do this again.
She always complains that she'll never get married, but wastes YEARS on people like this when she could actually date a normal person who will treat her well.
Anything you say to her she already knows and doesn't want to believe.