The fact that Tiana’s boyfriend did not have any interaction with his children requires further investigation.It is important for her to understand what happened, who created the distance, and how her boyfriend feels about them.
If he created the distance in order to avoid child support, to avoid investing time in childrearing, or if he overlooked the children’s feelings in any way, this may be a real problem for her. You should hope that the ex-partner would be relatively mature because that is going to affect his or her ability to make sound decisions, to resolve conflict, and to shield the children and you from any negative dynamics with your partner.
When there is separation in a family with children, everybody suffers. You do not want to find yourself in the middle of a war between your partner and their ex.
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So observe their interactions, ask questions and listen closely to what both your partner and the children say about each other.
This will give you a glimpse of how your partner may relate to your children if you were to have any together in the future.
expect that they will be committed to not involve you in their conflict.
Have a conversation with your partner about how he or she plans to protect you from it and if the answer is not to your satisfaction, you should reconsider a deeper commitment.
If you are dating someone with kids and your partner expects you to parent their children from a previous relationship, there should be some support coming your way.